Have you been in a situation where someone always second guesses your opinions and/or decisions? How about the person who always finds something wrong with any situation they are in and capitalize on that one thing no matter how small it is? Have you been around people no matter what you do or say, they bring the energy down to a negative and chaotic space?
If you can say yes to any of these scenarios you have been placed in the negative zone. This most likely is no fault of your own, it is some unchosen person around you that is negative Nan.
The question is how do I deal with it?
The easy answer – Think, misery loves company and you don’t deal with it. This method is not always so easy.
The deeper answer – People who are extremely negative have an underlined issue that is packed away and they bring their issues out on others. The bottom line is their soul is suffering from a situation that left them hurt and broken. They need healing the most. The saying “hurt people hurt people” is very true. Remember our outside world is a direct reflection of our internal consciousness. Those who are consistently hurting or negative towards people are in pain. The ones closest to them or the people who show the most love and care tend to get the negative energy the most. This hurting person doesn’t know how to receive kindness so they push people away from them.
It is not easy dealing with negative and difficult people. Sometimes it is easy to walk away and leave them alone. Sometimes it is not so easy because this person could be your mother, boss, sibling, or spouse. Now, if everyone in your world is putting you in the negative zone, it is time to take a look at yourself and check your thoughts, actions, and alignment.
If you are in a negative zone and can’t run for the hills so quickly, I’ve shared some questions and tips that can help the process be less painful.
To get through the negative zone, I ask myself the following questions?
What do I need to learn from this individual? At times the difficult people can be our greatest teachers because and biggest blessings. As they are on the verge of bringing out the worst in us, we become better people by learning how to relate in a peaceful way. We also tap into our internal selves to keep it together and this person can be just what you need to heal an area that you didn’t know needed work.
What part did I play? Sometimes we have a part to play in the situation. On the other hand, sometimes the person is this way towards the majority of the people in their world.
Would I rather be right or happy? I have a smart and sarcastic mouth to a fault. I also have a good measure when it comes to reading people. I know I can cut folks with some words, but God has taught me better. The bottom line, “how people treat you is their karma how you respond is yours.” I love this quote that I can’t claim as my own but it is true. What you put out comes back to you so do good and be good at all times.
Some things to think about – Feel free to tweet any or all of these
Love yourself so much that you can share the love without attachment. @CalmingCorners #BeCalm #NoNegativityZone
People treat you how they feel about themselves. @CalmingCorners #BeCalm #NoNegativityZone
Trust the process. @CalmingCorners #BeCalm #NoNegativityZone
Everything is in alignment for the greater good of your ultimate purpose. @CalmingCorners #BeCalm #NoNegativityZone
Relationships are reflections of who we are. @CalmingCorners #BeCalm #NoNegativityZone
You attract what you are. @CalmingCorners #BeCalm #NoNegativityZone
We never know what people are going through so be gentle. @CalmingCorners #BeCalm #NoNegativityZone
Don’t take anything personal. @CalmingCorners #BeCalm #NoNegativityZone
I hope these tips helped you navigate your journey out of the negative zone.
I would love to know. Leave a comment below, how do you get out of the negative zone?
Peace and blessings,
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