Five Ways to Stabilize the Shaky Ground

Posted on August 1, 2011 by Yvelette Stines in Inspiration

You are “winning” in life everything is falling into place and then it happens, you see things changing almost spinning out of control. Before you can even reach out to hold on to something, anything that will give you stability there is nothing there. The ground is shaking and you have fallen through, you feel stripped, open, vulnerable, emotional and pissed. Is life really that cruel to throw a curve ball when things were going so smoothly? Yes, it can be. Through this it transition, it will get better because you are forced to go through a living death. Once it’s all over, you will be led to the next step in your life.

Interesting part is many of us probably set ourselves up for this transition. There is that goal we haven’t started, a dream that is put on hold or an immediate change we want. The thoughts of change are in our heads but we do nothing about it until something shakes us.

How do you stabilize the shaky ground?

Last year, I was contemplating on my next steps in regards to writing, and I mentioned to a few friends my plans and desires although I did nothing about it. I just continued with my regular job and taking assignments from publications, which I loved (the writing part) but the plan would come in my head from time to time but I had an if it ain’t broke attitude. Suddenly things started to shake, some of the positions I thought I wanted and deserved didn’t come through, some people in my life started to show true insincerity and things seemed like they were spinning out of control. I was paying too much attention to what wasn’t working until I took a serious time out. I didn’t give up but I let go.

It was then I realized that the things that I wanted were already appearing with no effort on my part. That planted seed was already starting to grow. Before the time out, going through the chaos I was shaking trying to hold on to people, things and situations that no longer served me. I was holding, grabbing and the more I tried all I could feel was resistance.

I had to understand it was the process I had to go through to get to the next step. With letting go, I started to pay attention to every thought, pain, stiffness, conversation, and person that I interacted with. As I started to pay attention I started to see that the present cycle was coming to a close and I had to experience this to get to the next phase. It felt like a rebirth. As I am entering the next phase I am embracing the unknown, but I know it is where I am supposed to be at the moment.

FiveÂ tips to stabilize the shaky ground.

Pay attention - There is a reason things are happening the way they are. It is usually a lesson that needs to be learned in order for you to understand, appreciate and/or embrace the next phase of your journey.

Letting go is not giving up - When I think of surrendering I picture standing at the pool and falling in backwards and becoming submerged by the calmness and freedom of water. When you let go and ask for the guidance something magical happens you allow yourself to flow. This is when the growth starts.

Work through the personal challenges -Patience and faith are important elements during your transition. In the process you will change so some people/situations will have to go. This is also a time to set strong boundaries.

Spend time alone -This is processing time, meditate, write or read. Anything that keeps you relaxed and focused.

Get ready - It is your time to shine your light and accept the gifts and lessons with humility and gratitude.

Peace and Blessings,

Yvelette